How Do You Handle a Girlfriend Who Dominates The Conversation

How do you handle a girlfriend who is always dominating the conversation? Most of us have been in this situation, and I can tell you from experience that it can be very annoying! It's almost as if there is no social awareness on their part that they're even doing it. You start to say something and you're immediately cut off or they try to finish your sentence. After a couple of tries, you usually just give up and allow them to continue, nodding your head every once in a while to make it look like they still have your attention. 

The truth is, people who dominate conversations, who like to be center of attention, who demand to be heard, are usually the ones who can't handle someone telling them to "take a breathe"! They are usually the ones who are appalled that you would have the audacity to interrupt them and "embarrass" them like that. They have no social awareness of what they were even doing to cause you to jump in and say something.

So, how do you handle a girlfriend who dominates the conversation? It's simple, politely excuse yourself and tell her you want to add something. As soon as she chimes in, immediately tell her that you're not finished with what you have to say. As soon as she attempts to chime in again, you repeat exactly what you just said to her, "I'm not finished with what I have to say." This may have to be repeated a couple of times throughout your time spent with her. Hopefully she will get the hint and learn to stop talking when you have something to input. As funny as this sounds, you are literally re-programming her to respond differently when others are speaking.

When all else fails and she is not responding well to your requests to speak or seems annoyed because she cannot sit quiet and listen, then the next time she asks you to spend time with her, turn down her invitation. Your time is valuable! Why share it with someone who doesn't care enough to hear what's new in your life, how your family is doing, or how your business is going? It's okay to say no. Often we are too quick to say yes when asked to do something with someone else. Think of how and who you want to spend your time with. Spend it with people who add value and are excited to hear about what's going on in your life.